Dr. Shirley Glass

Quiz: Individual Vulnerability Map

There's no way to predict with certainty whether a specific individual is going to be unfaithful. Responding to the statements below will help identify attitudes and personality characteristics that increase an individual's vulnerability to opportunities for extramarital involvement.

Quiz: Individual Vulnerability Map

Directions: Check the appropriate letter to the left of each statement:

A = Yes, I agree.

D = No, I disagree.

NA = Not applicable

Part I. I would feel justified having an extramarital relationship for the following reasons:

A D NA

1. If I fell in love with another person.

A D NA

2. For sexual excitement or sexual variety.

A D NA

3. To have someone understand my problems and feelings.

Part II. I would be inhibited from having an extramarital relationship for the following reasons:

A D NA

4. I would feel too guilty.

A D NA

5. It's against my moral, ethical, or religious principles.

A D NA

6. I wouldn't break my wedding vows or my commitment to my partner.

A D NA

7. I'm devoted to my partner.

Part III. I'd probably get involved with an attractive person who is interested in me because:

A D NA

8. I work hard, so I deserve to have some fun.

A D NA

9. I wouldn't be hurting anybody.

A D NA

10. It's okay to have sex as long as you don't get too emotionally involved.

A D NA

11. It's okay to fool around as long as you don't have intercourse.

A D NA

12. It's okay to be emotionally involved as long as there's no physical intimacy.

Part IV. The following statements reflect my beliefs about life:

A D NA

13. I thrive on risky, new adventures.

A D NA

14. Rules are made to be broken.

A D NA

15. Forbidden fruit is sweeter.

A D NA

16. Beginning a project is always more interesting than finishing it.

Part V. The following statements reflect how I feel about my relationship:

A D NA

17. I feel uptight if my partner tries to get too close.

A D NA

18. I feel anxious and rejected if my partner ignores me.

A D NA

19. I'm most comfortable being alone. I have little need to spend time with my partner.

 

Scoring Key:

Add up your points to calculate your individual vulnerability score:

In Parts I, III, IV, and V: each Yes = 1, No = 0.
In Part II: each No = 1, Yes = 0.

Your score tells how close you are to the slippery slope of infidelity.
    0-4 = Safety zone
    5-9 = Proceed with caution
10-14 = Slippery slope
15-19 = Danger zone

When you are finished with the Vulnerability Maps, be sure to read the Vulnerability Map Summary.

Taken from the book NOT "Just Friends", © Dr. Shirley Glass