Dr. Shirley Glass

Quiz: Is Your On-Line
Friendship Too Friendly?

What are the warning signs that you (or your spouse) are on the slippery slope to on on-line affair? Take this on-line relationship quiz and see.

Quiz: Is Your On-Line Friendship Too Friendly?

Directions: Check Yes or No to the left of each statement.

Yes  No

1. Do you find yourself coming to bed later at night because you are chatting on-line?

Yes  No

2. Do you ever exit a screen because you do not want a family member to see what you are reading or writing to a chat room member?

Yes  No

3. Have you ever lied to your spouse about your personal Internet activities?

Yes  No

4. Would you feel uncomfortable sharing your Internet correspondence with your spouse?

Yes  No

5. Have you ever set up a separate e-mail account or credit card to carry on a personal correspondence with an individual on-line?

Yes  No

6. Has your Internet correspondence had a negative effect on your work or household tasks?

Yes  No

7. Have you ever lied in response to a question from your spouse about your e-mail correspondence?

Yes  No

8. Have you ever exchanged photos of yourself with a secret e-mail correspondent?

Yes  No

9. Since beginning a secret e-mail correspondence, have you experienced either a loss or an unusual increase in sexual desire with your spouse?

Yes  No

10. Have you made arrangements to talk secretly on the phone with your e-mail friend?

Yes  No

11. Have you made arrangements to meet with your secret e-mail friend?

 

Scoring Key:

Two or more yes answers to questions 1, 2, 3, 4 indicate a potential Internet romance is developing. It is time to either share your on-line correspondence with your mate or break off the correspondence and begin to examine how to improve your marriage.

A yes answer to any of questions 5, 6, 7 indicates you are crossing the boundary from an Internet friendship to an Internet romance. Acknowledge this relationship for what it is about to become and take action to preserve and enhance your marriage.

A yes answer to questions 8 or 9 indicates you have begun a fantasy romantic relationship with your on-line correspondent. Even if it never moves to a physical stage, this relationship has great potential to damage or destroy your marriage.

A yes answer to question 10 or 11 indicates that you have taken positive action towards initiating an extramarital affair. Consider the impact this will have on your marriage and your children and take steps to sort this out with a professional.

Taken from the book NOT "Just Friends", © Dr. Shirley Glass