Dr. Shirley Glass
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American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Love, Sex, and Betrayal: Treating the Crisis of Infidelity
Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D., ABPP
Course Schedule: Monday - Thursday 8:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.
This course provides 20 hours of continuing education.
In the new crisis of infidelity, good people in good marriages are unintentionally crossing the line between platonic friendship and romantic love. Today's workplace and the Internet are the new danger zones of attraction and opportunity. Extramarital affairs that involve both sexual intercourse and a deep emotional attachment pose the greatest threat to marriages; this combined-type involvement has become more prevalent as more men are getting emotionally involved, and more women are getting sexually involved.
A survey of marital therapists identified infidelity as the second most damaging problem that couples encounter and the third most difficult problem to treat. This Institute integrates clinical experience, empirical research, and the trauma literature to provide an interpersonal trauma model for treating the aftermath of infidelity. The initial phase of recovery establishes safety, fosters goodwill and compassionate communication. Coping with post-traumatic reactions such as hypervigilance, flashbacks, and hyperarousal are handled by the couple together, as the perpetrator learns to become the healer. Exploring vulnerabilities for infidelity must include relationship factors, individual issues, and social-cultural influences. Studies indicate that recovery depends on open discussion about the affair, but many therapists discourage the betrayed partner's desire for details. The walls and windows in the extramarital triangle must be shifted so that the betrayed spouse is "inside" and the extramarital partner is "outside."
Participants will learn to: